Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype

ISBN: 978-1-939288-23-3
176 Pages, 6 x 9

$14.95 Paperback
Pub Date: Mar. 2014


““. . . invites us to be available to ourselves as we unravel the expectation
of perfection that shadows mothering.”
Patricia Lynn Reilly, author of Imagine a Woman in Love with Herself

“. . . can help you step out of the ideal of ‘Perfect’ to be the authentic,
‘Real’ mother that you are.” Jasmin Lee Cori, author of The Emotionally Absent Mother

“. . . this is one of the most meaningful, helpful books about motherhood that
I have ever read.” Stephanie Sprenger, co-editor of The HerStories Project

“. . . an intelligent discussion of the pressures women face when they undertake motherhood in the face of society’s unreasonable expectations.”
Barbara Almond, M.D. author of The Monster Within: The Hidden Side of Motherhood


Patti Ashley

Patti Ashley, Ph.D. is a mother of four children, ages twenty-five through thirty-three, and a grandmother to twos. She has 30+ years of experience working as an educator and therapist. Currently she owns Breakthrough Psychotherapy and Parent Coaching in Boulder Colorado, where she helps individuals and families break-through barriers to personal freedom and authentic growth.

Patti has developed parent education and support groups in pediatric practices and women's centers; taught courses in early childhood and human development at Old Dominion University and Naropa University. She is a current contributor to the Museum of Motherhood and the Shriver Report blog-sites.

Patti completed a doctor of philosophy degree in psychology from the Union Institute and University; a master of science degree in education from Old Dominion University; and a bachelor of science degree in special education from James Madison University. However, she truly believes that raising children has been her greatest teacher.






LIVING IN THE SHADOW OF THE TOO-GOOD MOTHER ARCHETYPE is a journey into the heart and soul of mothering. It takes you to places that have remained hidden due to out-dated beliefs about what it means to be a good mother. Dr. Ashley reveals the truth about being a good enough mother and dispels the myths of being a perfect parent.

Based on over three decades of working in pediatric, mental health and public education settings; a doctoral dissertation; and experience of raising four children, Dr. Ashley has written a book that aims to transform how women feel about themselves as mothers.

LIVING IN THE SHADOW OF THE TOO-GOOD MOTHER ARCHETYPE will help women connect more deeply to themselves and others, and feel more authentic, mindful and whole. It weaves real stories and common themes into archetypal mythology and the rapidly changing roles of women, creating the fabric of a new parenting paradigm.




“I highly recommend Dr. Ashley’s book for every mom who has ever felt ‘not good enough.’”

Harley A. Rotbart, M.D., author of No Regrets Parenting